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Shweta Srivastava's avatar

Mansi - thank you for being brave for everyone out there feeling and suffering what you have been through. My heart is crying so much for you because I knew you when you were struggling with all of the worst of human kind and I couldn't be there for you. I always envied you because of your lovely hair and your excellence in English. How I wished I was you not knowing your fears and your tribulations....I wish I could have done one good thing for you then ...I wish I can do one good thing for you now. Your strength is your beauty and I know those are the genes your daughter will grow up with ...lots of love to you.

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Sharon's avatar

Mansi, thank you for being you and even though I struggled to read your story I appreciate your truthfulness. The main thing victims struggle with, and I am one of them, it's not only the violation itself but the fact of not being believed by the people who are supposed to love and protect you, being called a liar, being blamed for what happened or labelled as the instigator (what you wear, how you present yourself etc) not feeling safe any more within your own body and that nobody has your back so what's the point of telling anyone. It's a very very dark lonely place to be and also opens you up to a whole different level of abuses throughout your life like bullying, narcissistic friendships and violent relationships. You were blessed to find your husband whom you feel safe with, as did I in the end but even now I still have negative thoughts and feelings which seem to come out of nowhere. It is a lifetime struggle but we are still here, they didn't break us and we are strong enough within ourselves to teach our children what is not acceptable under any circumstances no matter who it is, that we are there for them, they are loved and how to stand up for themselves. I'm sending you big hugs. And to all of our little girls inside, of each and every one of us, you are not to blame, you did nothing wrong, you have nothing to forgive yourself for. Love and gentle hugs, Sharon xx

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